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G is for… Guilt

Writer Zen Garden Posted on April 8, 2020 by a.catherine.noonApril 7, 2020

Contributed by Elizabeth Szubert. Find her on the web, here.

Let’s get this out in the open. We are all dealing with guilt right now. It’s the guilt that we’re not putting the right effort in the right places. The guilt of being home but sitting and watching the 24/7 news that is our life right now (hi, that’s me). I have a family member who is an essential worker and she’s dealing with the guilt that she has to leave the house every day. The guilt that your child is missing their friends and there is nothing you can do about it. We all, possibly, are dealing with this right now. But, two things.

#1 – For all those who are essential workers who have to leave the home, THANK YOU.

#2 – You are human and your feeling are valid. All of them and you should try to be compassionate towards yourself.

It’s hard to do that. I’m not going to lie to you. Guilt is one of my hardest emotions to deal with, especially towards my writing. I feel guilty when I only write 100 words for the day instead of the complete chapter. Even though I am out of ways to deal with making myself work. I feel guilty when I take a day off on the weekend because that’s a day I could be working instead of relaxing. However, more and more I’ve been coming back to this very simple idea – I am only human.

I am only human with a finite time and mental space to deal with things during the day. I am only human who needs a day off in order to make the rest of the days of the week be amazing. I am only human who is doing the best I can with the hand that I have been dealt. We, as human beings, can only do so much. Now, this is not a cure all. There are still a lot of days where I sit and feel guilty that nothing got done. Especially when I sink into the 24/7 news cycle or try to shut off my brain with binge reading a book. However, with the guilt, I am also learning to be compassionate to myself.

That compassion starts with being human and taking one deep breath. Then another. Sit, breathe deep, and remember that we are trying. That we need to be nice to ourselves and then we can be nice to each other.

Stay safe out there as we are all in this together.

Posted in Blog | Tagged #atozchallenge, Elizabeth Szubert

F Is For… Family and Flower!

Writer Zen Garden Posted on April 7, 2020 by a.catherine.noonApril 5, 2020

Contributed by Nikki Memmott: excerpt from her “Knights” universe, from a story duel on Romance Divas a few years ago. Enjoy!

“Kayla Bernadette, get over here right now!”  Phallon watched as his five-year-old daughter continued to spin in circles across the courtyard from him, arms extended to support the weight of eight or nine diamond and ruby bracelets several sizes too large.

“Look, Daddy!  I’m a princess!”

Phallon knew his daughter’s expression of wide-eyed innocence was intended to disarm and charm him – and it was working, damn it – but he forced himself to maintain his stern expression.  If the volume of jewelry Kayla was wearing was any indication, she had raided not only her mother’s jewelry box – Saints rest her soul – but those of her grandmother and aunt, as well.  His daughter was in danger of becoming a real menace.  An adorable, beguiling one, but a menace nonetheless.

“Kayla, give me the bracelets,” Phallon demanded.  Kayla stopped spinning but stayed far away from him.

“Aren’t I pretty, Daddy?”

“Yes, Kayla.”  Phallon realized his mistake as soon as Kayla’s expression brightened and she began admiring the jewelry, raising and twisting each arm so emerald and diamond and ruby facets caught the light.  Bloody hell.

Out of the corner of his eye Phallon saw Connor rise from the bench where he had been reading and walk out of sight.  Abandoned in his hour of need – apparently they’d see how Connor liked sleeping alone tonight.  A fly buzzing around his head diminished the dignity of his parental disapproval somewhat, but Phallon batted it away and planted his feet, crossed his arms, and darkened his expression even more.  “Kayla, I’m not going to ask you again.”

Lashes lowered over cornflower blue eyes and Kayla’s lower lip began to tremble, but she held her ground.  Oh, hell.  Not the pout.  A growl started in Phallon’s chest, worked its way up his throat, and just when it was about to explode out of him, a smooth voice came from behind him, distracting him completely.

“Princess Kayla, may I make a suggestion?”

Phallon turned to see Connor stepping towards Kayla, stopping just a few feet from her.  Taken aback by Connor’s sudden appearance but pleased by the title he had bestowed on her, Kayla let vanity overcome her instinctive suspicion and nodded.  “Yes, milord, you may speak.”

By the Saints, the girl was asking to get her backside paddled.  Connor, however, bowed slightly as though Kayla truly was the princess she claimed to be and crossed the distance between them.  Inches away from her now, Connor brought his right hand from behind his back and produced a small ring of flowers.  Simple daisies strung together in a chain, but he held them as carefully as if they were the crown jewels.

Suddenly Phallon could see exactly what Connor intended.  Surely he didn’t think Kayla was going to fall for such a simple trick.  Torn between the desire to reclaim the valuable jewelry and the perverse desire to see Kayla best his lover, Phallon stood back and let the scene play out.

“Being a princess is all very well,” Connor explained, “but if you had a crown, you could be a queen.”

Kayla’s pleasure at the idea of being a queen brought a slow smile to her face, and she reached for the daisy coronet.

“Oh, but your highness has so many other jewels. . .”  Connor met Kayla’s eyes gravely.  “A queen must never be gaudy.  Indeed, for a true queen, a crown is all she really needs.”

Phallon wondered if Connor had pushed the game too far.  When Kayla arched a brow in so perfect an imitation of one of his own favorite expressions that Phallon almost laughed aloud, he was sure Connor’s gambit had failed.  One by one the bracelets came off, though, and the floral circlet was laid on Kayla’s head.

“Queen Kayla.”  Connor bowed with full Court solemnity, and Kayla allowed him to kiss her hand.

“Thank you milord.”  A small frown wrinkled Kayla’s brow, and then she asked, “Shall I make you a Knight, Connor?  I’m a queen now.”

The soft, tender smile on Connor’s face stole Phallon’s breath.  His lover was so in love with his daughter, it was like a hammer to the heart each time he saw it.

“No, thank you, dearheart.  Knighthood is for brave men like your father, not for healers like me.”

A hint of hesitation clouded Kayla’s expression as her attention swung back to Phallon.  He neither smiled nor frowned, just waited to see how she would respond.  Finally she smashed all the bracelets between her two hands and walked over to him.  “Here, Daddy.  I don’t need them anymore.  I’m a queen now.”

“I’ll take them inside for you, but then you’re going to take the bracelets back to your aunt and your grandmother and apologize for taking them without permission.”

“And say sorry to Mama.”

Phallon curled one finger through a strand of Kayla’s hair, exactly the shade of Kaitlin’s.  “And when you say your prayers you can apologize to your mother, too.”

It should have been embarrassing, that Connor melted him as easily as he melted Kayla, but when a strong hand clasped his shoulder Phallon just accepted the comfort it offered.

‘You think you’re pretty smart, don’t you?” Phallon asked Connor later, pouring two glasses of wine while Connor filled the bathing tub.

“Lucky for you, I am,” Connor grinned, “And all yours.”

Posted in Blog | Tagged #atozchallenge, Nikki Memmott

E Is For… Eight Essential Strategies for Optimum Creative Productivity in a World of Pandemonium

Writer Zen Garden Posted on April 6, 2020 by a.catherine.noonApril 5, 2020

Image of author Becca Howell with words "Stay Home #flattenthecurve"Contributed by Writer Zen Garden Member, Becca Howell.

Most start the new year out with ideas for where they want their lives to go in the coming year.  Creatives are no different.  “This year, I am going to write that book, record that album, open up a successful photography, jewelry making, or insert your business of choice here.”  Just like with some more common goals of the year, I am going to lose weight, get in shape or eat healthier, creatives can lose their steam after a short time.  Life gets in the way, there are other priorities, or several generations were brought up to view creativity as non-essential and therefore, allow other things to take precedence.  According to US and News Report, about 80% of people will quit their New Year’s resolutions about six weeks into the year.  Even more alarming is that January 17, is designated as the National Ditch Your New Year’s Resolution Day. These statistics also apply to creative individuals wanting to achieve their goals.

Fast-forward to the year 2020 about 2 1/2 months in: the world is rocked by Covid-19, an infectious disease that has forced many into different levels of quarantine.  Many creatives may have thought, this is an amazing time for me to achieve the goal that I set forth earlier this year and were excited for the extra time they were given to stay home and be creative since lay-offs were at a record high with businesses closing temporarily to avoid the spread of the virus.  As they began to adapt to this new way of life, a few weeks in, some realized, wow, this is easier said that done as people are dealing with new stressors that they never thought they would have to face in life.  Some creatives are struggling to get a stronghold on their zone and get in the flow of starting and finishing the projects that they have dreamed of completing all year long.  Here are eight strategies to help:

Struggle #1: It is almost impossible to focus on my creativity amidst all that is happening in the world.

Image of blank canvas.

Strategy to overcome: Own your mindset.  It’s true that people are dying out there and others are struggling financially as they wait for unemployment to start.  Yes, hospitals are overflowing, and medical professionals are overwrought.  It’s true there are people who ignore the stay at home orders and continue to spread the disease.  Yes, it’s a crazy time.  It is true that you have control over your emotions and how to feel them.  You can choose to wake up each morning and check to see the data: how many new cases, how many fatalities and how close the virus is to you and then remain stuck all day wrought with worry, fear, anxiety, and depression.  Instead, take a moment and close your eyes, breath in your dream and remember the passion you have for what you want to create.  Feel that passion in your heart and whenever you feel the sense of dread, anxiety, fear, depression or panic that you struggle with, repeat that exercise and center yourself knowing you can make a difference with your creation.

Struggle #2:  With everything going on in the world or in life, my creative juices are blocked.

Image of art piece with rainbow colored hearts

Strategy to overcome:  This is my personal favorite.  The daily brain-dump.  I do this in the morning and carry a small notebook throughout the day to add to it.  I take 10 minutes and just jot down anything that comes to mind.  Not everything I add is creative.  I could add something like – where to get toilet paper?  I might make a sketch.  I might write, it makes me very sad that the world is getting to me at this time and I need to pray for so and so’s mom who tested positive yesterday.  At the end of my brain- dump, I go through and highlight anything that may be of any use to a creative project and try to work that in somehow.  This is an exercise that can be done at any time of day, I just find that I am fresh after a night of sleep and brain processing time.

Struggle #3: I don’t even know what day it is during this crazy time, let alone have any routine to be creative.

Image of gold metal necklace

Strategy to overcome:  Only you know what the optimum time of day always has been for your creativity.  It might be early morning; it might be late at night or anywhere in between.  That time needs to become your protected time.  You might be more creative after you’ve had a nap, or with a glass of wine, or tea, or after listening to some music or pumping some weights.  You know yourself best.  Decide what time of day is the best for you personally and design a ritual around that time to get yourself to the creative flow.  For the days, you just aren’t there, insist anyway.  This is a date with yourself and you can’t stand yourself up.  For me, I am most creative early in the morning after a solid exercise regiment and meditation and my brain-dump.  Atmosphere is also important to me and I tend to light candles as well as use white pixie lights in my area to keep my mind flowing.  Equally crucial, make it fun.  This is a new adventure you are on and it won’t be something you want to do day after day if it is something you dread.

Struggle #4: With all this extra time on my hands, I should have 100 pages written but I have zilch.

Image of gold metal necklace with three elephant pendants from baby to adult

Strategy to overcome:  Give yourself grace.  This most likely is the first time you are experiencing something of this magnitude.  The fact that you have read this far into this article shows that you have intention.  Forgive yourself and scale down your expectations.  Maybe even cross genres.  If you don’t feel like writing that day, instead maybe you feel like painting, coloring, or taking pictures of your surroundings., do it.  No matter what, keep your creative date with yourself and just do something that uses your creative skills in some manner.

Struggle #5: I don’t know where to start.

Image of collaged young woman with black hair

Strategy to overcome: Decide what your main goal is creatively.  Maybe you want to write a successful blog or open a business where you sell your crafts and art. Brainstorm all the different parts of that goal.  What do you need to do?  What do you need to learn?  What creative content do you need to produce?  What is the biggest thing holding you back?  Break it down into bite sized pieces and put deadlines to those pieces.  During your daily creative dates, take a chunk of one of those pieces and chew it carefully with intent and once its swallowed, you can move on to the next piece of your goal.  Sometimes deadlines won’t be met because you realize that your second step has about 3 more steps to it and those take time.  Give yourself grace and just rescale your vision.

Struggle # 6: I want it to be perfect.

Image of painting of young blond woman laughing

Strategy to overcome: Throw perfectionism to the wind!  This is one of the biggest things that hold creatives back.  Yes, we all want our final product to be the best we have to offer, but don’t let that hinder you from even starting.  Keep a challenge log each day of how you deliberately weren’t perfect in your creativity.  Be intentional about it.

Struggle #7:  I just don’t feel like it because of everything that is going on in the world.

Image of young man with angel halo and young woman with devil tail and horns

Strategy to overcome:  Review Struggle #1, breathe in your passion, but dig in deeper here.  Why don’t you feel like it?  Is it because you’ve been stress eating since you’ve been quarantined?  Is it because your gym is closed, and you don’t know where to get your wiggles out and your body isn’t used to being as sedentary as it is?  Is it because you are sleeping a different schedule?  Aren’t getting enough rest or broken rest?  Is it because those who live in your home are driving you mad?  You are cooking 3 full meals a day and cleaning for an hour after each one?  Figure out what is eating at you and how you can creatively overcome it with the constraints of whatever your life looks like with the pandemonium the world has tossed you.  It could be as simple as learning to meditate or going out for a daily walk or getting yourself on a more realistic sleep pattern.

Struggle #8 I don’t have the knowledge to do what my creative dream is right now.

Image of black and white painting of two women, one older and one younger

Strategy to overcome:  With the world of social distancing, there are more and more individuals starting social media groups dedicated to knowledge sharing and helping one another.  More and more businesses are offering reduced class rates and even a plethora of freebies.  Takelessons.com is offering a free trial of their live classes for all sorts of things.  Udemy often offers classes for as low at $10 if you watch for flash sales, and blueprint is offering free classes through April 9, 2020.  See what’s out there, you may be surprised.

The honest bottom line is that this outbreak is changing the way we have lived for so long and there is a lot of value in that for creatives.  Remember, while many of us come from the generation that creativity is a hobby which holds little value, right now it is those that have creative talents that are entertaining the masses stuck at home.  The world needs beauty, it needs the light, humor, creative distraction, music, television and books. While creativity has been viewed as non-essential for so long, it is swiftly becoming essential at this very moment.  Can you imagine the books, paintings, movies, and digital art that will be quarantine based in the years to come?

Creative, this is your time to shine.

Posted in Blog | Tagged #atozchallenge, Writer Zen Garden

D Is For… Decluttering!

Writer Zen Garden Posted on April 4, 2020 by a.catherine.noonApril 2, 2020

by Rachel Wilder

I don’t know about you, but since I’ve sheltered from home my house is cleaner than it’s ever been. It’s been therapeutic for me and a great source of grounding. But now I’m moving on to the next step- decluttering.

I just have too much stuff.

So, I’ve watched some videos and gotten inspired. There are many good ones out there and fun to watch. But now is the perfect time to actually get off my butt and do it. I’ve done it before- as I’m sure many others have- but now that I’ve been cooped up in my home I want things neater and place made so everything is put away and has a home that isn’t the corner hidden by my bed or the closet floor.

I know a few of my other friends are doing it now for various different reasons and I cheer them on. I’m not sure if donation places are open but luckily, I have a storage shed I can put them in until the world is back to normal-whatever that will end up being.

Image of household items bagged and boxed ready to be given away

This is a great beginning. Also, this is a good time of year since many of us are putting away our winter clothes.

I’m getting a lot of satisfaction on doing this. I think, deep down, it’s because this is one aspect of my life I have total control over. And to be honest- I really do have too much stuff. So, I urge to join me. If nothing else, it’ll make room for all of our new stuff when we finally can go out and shop!

Stay Safe!

Posted in Blog | Tagged #atozchallenge, A. Catherine Noon, Motivation, Noon and Wilder, Rachel Wilder

C Is For… Career!

Writer Zen Garden Posted on April 3, 2020 by a.catherine.noonApril 2, 2020

Career.  It’s your Core Values come to life.

Creative desires made real.
More than a job for pay, a career is a culmination of what truly counts as important to you. It’s what gets you up in the morning and motivates you throughout the day.
Career is your Values, Interests,  Personality,  Skills,  and Strengths binding together to guide you in the right direction for fulfillment and financial stability.
Choose carefully and wisely so your career will be a lifestyle enhancement that goes beyond fiscal necessity.
Career can be a calling,  a coordination of all you can aspire to.  And best of all, careers can be changed, refreshed, enhanced through your lifespan .
Career is growth.  Career is power. You’re worth the effort.

Bio:

Jonni Lukenbill-Bowles is a Career Counselor and Lifestyle Coach in the midwestern United States.   See more about Jonni on sageprairie.net and her blog at sageprairiestudio.com .  Write to Jonni at CoachJonni AT CoachJonni DOT com.
Posted in Blog | Tagged #atozchallenge, CoachJonni, Jonni Lukenbill-Bowles, sageprairie

B is For… Beauty!

Writer Zen Garden Posted on April 2, 2020 by a.catherine.noonMarch 31, 2020

Contributed by Tina Holland.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, or so the saying goes. I suspect beauty can be found in our hearing, touch and taste as well.

It can be hard to find the beauty when you are stuck indoors, but have you ever watched tv and laughed, listened to music and danced, tasted food that made you hum. Isn’t there beauty in these things?

During these times we don’t get to go out much at least not to art galleries, museums, concert halls, zoos, or anyplace else that may grant beauty to our senses. However these venues are ironically more accessible to us like never before. Free online concerts, painting classes, private zoo tours, and so many more.

I see more people out walking, because they can’t go to the gym. Writers getting together online to write, crafters crafting together. And I myself took up Rosemaling to try and relearn a skill I hadn’t since I was a small child, but something prompted me to try during this time.

A few weeks ago I was in a class and learned that through some of our greatest illnesses came literature, art and music the likes of which the world had never seen. Here is a link to an article by Alan Cross with more details.

What will your passion and hope create?

Whatever it is, I’m sure it will be a thing of Beauty.

Posted in Blog | Tagged #atozchallenge, Tina Holland, Writer Zen Garden

It’s the A to Z Blog Challenge, and A Is For All of Us, Sheltering At Home

Writer Zen Garden Posted on April 1, 2020 by a.catherine.noonMarch 31, 2020

Photograph of bald eagle, missing one wing, taken at Northwest Trek in Washington State in February 2020

Welcome to the A to Z Blog Challenge!

We are all in this together, my friends, during the time of Coronavirus. But it’s also the first day of April, and that means it’s the annual celebration of exuberant blogging, The A to Z Blog Challenge.  And it’s also the Grand Relaunch of the Writer Zen Garden, and ALSO Camp Nanowrimo!

My lovely fellow above is a Bald Eagle, photographed in February before the shelter in place orders really hit in Washington State. He’s missing one wing but he’s as gorgeous as ever. Fierce and unbowed.

That’s my wish for all of us, my friends, that we emerge from this fierce and unbowed. Even as I write this, I know with tears in my heart that it’s not possible for many, many people. Families touched by the loss of loved ones, countries devastated by overwhelming losses. And yet, we struggle through and fight to come to grips with the challenges facing us.

Humanity is, and ever has been, a resilient creature. We have survived enormous hardships from wars and conflicts to natural disasters. And through it all, creators have continued to create: writers write books and poetry, blogs and essays; painters paint oils and acrylics, street art and gallery pieces; dancers dance and design amazing shows that leave us breathless; and on and on through the litany of the arts. What it comes down to is expression.

And here’s the thing: we are naturally creative. We, as in all of us – you, me, that child over there, that old man living isolated and alone in the upstairs apartment – we are, all of us, creative. And that’s what the A to Z Challenge means to me, at its most distilled: an exuberant outpouring of content creation in the month of April whose only stipulation is that Day 1 is related to A, Day 2 to B, and so on throughout the month with Sundays as rest days. 26 days to correspond to the English language alphabet. One can select a theme, or not, as they choose.

And thus, we relaunch our website and blog into this atmosphere of unbridled blogging fun and creativity. This year, we have twenty bloggers to share with you: from professional authors and insurance agents, to poets, Reiki masters, life coaches, and a whole lot more besides. Our strength is in our diversity and we welcome you, Dear Reader, to journey through the alphabet with us. We’re glad you’re here. We hope that this provides a small oasis in your life, a place to rest, recover, and recreate within your own heart that solace which we sorely lack during trying times. And if you and yours are touched personally, please know that our hearts go out to you. May we all, collectively, be safe and well.

Namaste.

And, happy April!

 

 

Posted in Blog | Tagged #atozchallenge, A. Catherine Noon, Noon and Wilder, Rachel Wilder, Writer Zen Garden

Craft Circle and General Hangout Virtual Coffee Date Thingie

Writer Zen Garden Posted on March 25, 2020 by a.catherine.noonMarch 24, 2020

Image of entrance to a sea cave with the words Craft in the time of coronavirus: a virtual craft circle with date and time, also detailed in body of the post

Do you like to do crafts? Any craft, be it knitting, weaving, sewing, or other textile art; drawing, painting, collage, or other paper or canvas art; puzzles; writing; woodworking; cooking? Do you like to hang out with others who like to do that, too? Then join us for a restorative couple hours while we craft, chat, and have coffee (or what have you). We’ll be meeting on Zoom this time, which accommodates up to a hundred people.

Granted, if we have a hundred people, it’ll be a little crazy and chaotic, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing as an antidote to the pandemic, eh?

Join us!

Zoom details as follows:

Hi there,

You are invited to a Zoom meeting.
When: Mar 28, 2020 12:00 PM Pacific Time (US and Canada)

Register in advance for this meeting:
https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tZIkdOmqqD4iFnL9ytlkh3dx0_P1ZyYxpQ

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.

Posted in Blog | Tagged A. Catherine Noon, Community, Craft, Noon and Wilder, Rachel Wilder, Writer Zen Garden

Let’s Get This Party (re)Started! April Is the A to Z Blog Challenge AND Camp Nano!

Writer Zen Garden Posted on March 24, 2020 by a.catherine.noonMarch 24, 2020

Image of A to Z Blog Challenge Participation Badge for April, 2020

It’s almost April. And we’re in the midst of a global pandemic, causing unprecedented societal change. Our hearts go out to all those who have lost family members and loved ones, and all of us at Writer Zen Garden HQ send out a sincere and heartfelt wish that we come through this more together than ever before, build solid friendships, and take our writing to the next level. Writing can be a solace in dark times and, we believe, it will help us through this.

For that reason, we are re-launching our website to coincide with two global events: the A to Z Blog Challenge and April’s Camp NaNoWriMo (note that the format for camp is now as “groups” on the main NaNo website).

We’ll have more about both in the coming days, and watch this space for our first post come April 1. If you haven’t joined the discussion over in our Facebook group, please join us. All are welcome and there is no cost to join.

Stay well, friends. Best wishes, and good health to you and yours.

Namaste.

Posted in Blog | Tagged #atozchallenge, A. Catherine Noon, Announcements, Blogging, Motivation, NaNoWriMo, Noon and Wilder, Rachel Wilder, Writer Zen Garden

New Artist’s Way Workshop Starting June 16th!

Writer Zen Garden Posted on June 2, 2019 by a.catherine.noonJune 2, 2019

We’re starting up a new Artist’s Way Workshop! I hope you’ll join me. I will do live broadcasts on our Facebook group, and we’ll have posts there and on our online Forum here. I will also schedule in person meetings here in my valley, in Bellevue, WA, USA. I hope you’ll join us!

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